Yeah, my girlfriend broke up with me last night. She says she thinks she still wants to be with me, she just "needs some time apart" to "figure things out".

We're still going to be hanging out, and whatnot, but just not in a "together" way.

I kind of expected it, but still, this kind of sucks a lot.

Feel free to blast away at me, I just needed to vent.

Bust out the Tom Waits. And the scotch.

Well that's good.... as a break-up is good fodder for the emo thing, right? Like: "I gave her my heart, But she shat upon its figure and queefed out the bleeding remains of our connection".

I'm sure we can arrange a reacharound for you, if that helps. Or maybe we can all do some click-through ads and generate enough cash to get you a tranny whore.

(C'mon now..you asked for the blast! Some softballs are just too tempting not to swing at).


It'll be okay, camper. If you guys are still hanging out, there's always a chance you can both get back on the wagon. But don't hold out for that. Be thankful for what you had and how it boosted you as a person. It's like the end of a good movie. You don't think: "nooooo..the movie's over! Life sucks now". You think: "hey, that was a good flick. Worth my time. I enjoyed it".

There is that sense of rejection, but break-ups aren't necessarily bad things. Sometimes you just "need your space", too.

We've all been there, though. The whole "young love" thing. I remember it seemed like the worst day of my life when I got dumped at 19. It was all I could think about for the next six months or so.

Don't do that, mm'kay. I think back on it and feel like a tool for wasting an entire summer pining over some random chick. I even...gasp... stopped reading comic books it was so bad!

Don't let it get you down, LFV. I know it sucks right now and it might continue to suck for a good while. But if you keep your head up and understand this isn't the end of the world, you'll do fine. I had my heart broken pretty badly once and I took the time I needed to mend from it and think about what type of person I really wanted in my life and the result was that in less than a year I started dating the girl who is currently my fiance.

Just make sure you give yourself the time to heal over it and acknowledge that you will get better. It's not a "maybe" or an "if", you will definitely get better.

And if you're like me at all, try and find a nice spot next to a lake or body of water to just let your thoughts unravel. That helped me a lot.

Do you use your right hand or your left for that?






Sorry.... old joke from "Stand By Me". :)

Rowe's a man who doesn't need to use his hands...

He just bought a "Fleshlight!"

Yeah, the people on the campsite next to the lake gave me some funny looks, but I just had to give them a dirty look to send them back on their business.

You know the best part about a breakup? The rebound! Woo!

Anyway, break-ups suck. No way around it. Here's what NOT to do - go to the bar with the cheapest drinks in town regardless of how unpopular it is and tell the bartender you need more practice. That sucks even MORE. Trust me.

Just remember to go out have fun and meet people. Enjoy being single for a while and eventually the "right one" will just fall in your lap. It happened to me. I thought I was with the guy I was going to marry until he turned out to be a stubborn douchebag with a cultural gap about a thousand miles wide. We broke up, I got out with my other single friends, and I found the guy of my dreams.

And you CAN stay friends with your ex. My best friend and concert pal is an ex of mine. We have a blast together, and his fiancee doesn't even mind!

Hope that helps a little, dude.

She's still ending our phone calls by saying "I love you", so I'm not giving up entirely. Just bracing for the worst.

And thanks guys. I know it's not the end of the world. Trying to keep a positive outlook and all that. Just needed to vent a bit.

Maybe she just wants some great make-up sex...My friend dated this nympho drama queen in high school who would constantly find a reason to break up with him just so they could get back together and fuck like rabbits.

Needless to say, I saw her the other day, she was pregnant with someone who is NOT my friend, and I'm pretty sure she's doing meth.

What I'm trying to say here is...I have no idea what I'm trying to say.

I'm soooo not getting any right now, so I don't think that's it.

We hung out tonight. It was awkard... but... I guess it went well. She said that if everything were perfect, she'd want to be with me, without a doubt. Problem is there are outside things screwing it up, and she has to sort how she feels out.

So yeah. I'm offically pulling myself out of the situation entirely, since it doesn't have much to do with me in her mind.

I was pretty upset when Rick Martel and Tom Zenk broke up.

Now THAT was funny as fuck.

Seriously though LFV, this shit happens to everyone man. Don't let it get you down and don't think this was the chick you were going to spend the rest of your life with. Also, be mindful of what's going on. Chicks tend to fuck with your head, especially at the age your at. You're young, so be that and don't worry about the rest. You'll have plenty of time later on in life for women to fuck with your head.

Okay, here's the classy thing to do:

Fuck her Mom

Then her sister.

Then her Mom AND her sister.




I'm told it ALWAYS makes things better. I mean, Mr. Rant CAN'T be wrong, right?

Yeah, I'm good. Things have mellowed out now. We're going to an MLS game tomorrow (save the soccer cracks, please.) with my family. Hanging out for the first time not as a couple was hard, but things are getting easier. Whatever happens, we'll stay friends.

Welp, breakups do suck. No two ways about it, but here's my two cents:

Scrape her off. Kick her to the curb. YOU take control of the relationship. So, she might wanna be with you? Screw that. Tell her to call you when she gets her crap together, but in the meantime there are too-many girls in your town in deperate need of a dry-humping. Don't be friends, don't hang out...nothing. Then stick to it. Oh it will hurt more than you can imagine, but you have to be strong. And when you're crying your eyes out all night staring at the phone, praying it will ring...don't do it. Don't give up leverage. If she's confused about what she wants, this will help her figure it out quickly. If she's just stringing you along, this will save you months of agony. She may end up being a good friend to you, but let's face it, with the situation as-is, you will always wonder if there is still a chance to elevate the relationship. That's miserable in and of itself. Then what happens when you get your eye on another girl, and all of a sudden your best buddy starts thinking she might still have feelings for you. Of course when you cut off contact with the other girl, she'll go right back to the confused game. Yeah, take the ball our of her court, and the quicker the better. Right now she has you in the perfect position for her. she can play the field and weigh her options while keeping you around to fall back on, just in case. Don't be the just-in-case guy.

WMD is right on the money here. Although he called it the "just in case" guy. I call it the "Backup plan". Avoid being one, don't give women the leverage like WMD said, and on top of it all have some respect for yourself. If it's honestly heartwrenching to hang out with her, then why do it at all. I've always found times of breakup to be great to catch up with friends or just catch up on shit that you liked to do before hanging out with "her". It'll get your mind off things quicker than you think.

This is soooo much smarter than what I said.

Well...WMD IS our resident relationship advice guy.

I wish I'd done what WMD suggested when I got my heart broken at 18. That would've saved me about four months of agony and I wouldn't have royally fucked things up with two other girls because my ex was stringing me along.

I think you guys are right. This is going to suck.

At least you realize this. The sooner you bite the bullet, the better off you will be.

Me too. How do you think I learned?

Ah yes, it's a bitter lesson to learn, so it would be nice if LFV could learn from our mistakes and not the hard way. Luckily, after that instance, it never happened to me again, and I got a better perspective on who I wanted in a girlfriend. The following two girls I dated were sweet as hell, and I'm still with the later, we're engaged now.

Actually, not to sound too cliche (or gay) but sometimes it's best to go through this early in life when it's (no offense LFV) less important. I mean, it happens to most everyone, so why not get it out of the way?

I applaud WMD. That is the best advice in this thread so far. Trust me, LFV, there are better things waiting around the corner, even when you think there will never be a girl out there and you'll be alone forever. Just when you least expect it, the perfect person will come along. People spend their whole lives "searching" for that special someone and that is why they stay single. Don't search. Don't go girl hunting. Just get out and have fun and the right girl will eventually fall in your lap (and I hope for your sake it's head first...).

I did it.

Did what?

It.

Might explain my problem sometimes.

Pretty much made it final. We're still going to try to at least be friends, but... I'm not going to let her string me along. Or I'm trying not to, anyway. It's hard.

So technically you haven't done it yet.

Well, it's a good step. It is definitely hard, but will probably make life easier in the long run.

I finally read this thread. So, what happened? Did you actually call it off with her? Enquiring minds want to know!!!!!!!!!

Yeah!! It's been almost a month! Do you have a rebound yet!?

Actually, it was all quiet on the western front until yesterday when she told me she wants to give it another try. So I'm excited but a little cautious.

I was actually pretty surprised. I'd more or less written off her wanting to get back together. She seemed pretty content with just being friends. (We had started hanging out again, doing the just friends thing. It was eating me up though, so I'm relieved.)

Be careful here dude. This is bad territory. I hope that if you are doing this you don't have your heart set on everything being gravy train.

Best of luck with it though....

I hope that eventually things will get back to "Gravy train" as you put it, but I know that it's not going to be like that for a long while. And I know it won't be easy. I do realize that since I wasn't the one who wanted to break up to begin with, I have to be on my guard and not just rush back in to "OMG Life is perfect again". That's kind of my personality, too,l which sucks. But I know what the situation is, and I'm not kidding myself.

Thanks for the kind words too, guys. I appreciate this not turning into a massive LFV is emo thread.

But I know what the situation is, and I'm not kidding myself.


Sorry, but I call bullshit, and, no, I'm not trying to be an asshole. You just said that you had been hanging out as "friends". You hadn't done it. Cut the umbilical cord there, Mrs. Johnson! If she's serious, let her ask YOU out once. Let HER be the person calling seeing how you're doing. If she actually does some of that stuff, then you've got a shot, otherwise you're just hangin' on.

See I wouldn't say that what LFV is doing is total bullshit. Just as long as he's aware of the situation and has his guard up, then he should be fine. Plus, dude's a young one.....he has time to learn about all this shit. Unfortunately most of us (or at least me) have learned this shit the hardway.

No problem on the kind words LFV. I just fuck with everyone here, I actually like all you fuckers.